what to expect from your first couples counseling session

What to expect your first couples counseling session

Most people don’t know what to expect from the first couples therapy session.  Starting couples counseling can be intimidating and knowing what to expect can help you and your partner manage expectations.  It will also help better prepare you for a successful experience. In order to explain what starting couples therapy is like, I will…

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things I wish I knew before starting therapy

Things I wish I knew before starting therapy

Starting therapy is hard, but it doesn’t have to be a mystery. There’s tons of research saying therapy works. Many people talk about their success with counseling. But how exactly does it help?  Here is a list of things I wish I knew before starting therapy. It will take time Making changes in your life…

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three pillars of a thriving relationship

3 pillars of a thriving relationship, according to Dr. Sue Johnson

Having a successful, thriving and intimate relationship with your partner doesn’t have to be a mystery.   3 pillars to a thriving relationship According to Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, there a three pillars that make up a thriving, fulfilling relationship.  Those pillars are Accessibility, Responsiveness and Engagement. What brings…

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healing from spiritual abuse as an LGBTQ+ person

Healing from spiritual abuse as an LGBTQ+ person

Many of us in the LGBTQ+ community have conflicted relationships with religion and spirituality.    Sadly, religion is still far to often used against us. Scriptures are interpreted as saying our “lifestyle choices” are sinful.  Around the world people are still being killed and tortured because of their sexual or gender identity. Yet many of us…

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How do I know if it’s time to leave my relationship?

As a couples therapist, I spend my days encouraging people to work on their relationships.  With support and hard work, it’s remarkable how much progress some couples can make. You can heal betrayal, improve communication and become better connected.   However, sometimes it’s not possible or healthy to remain in a relationship.  Sometimes it’s in…

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