virtual gay couples counseling california

Do non-monogamous relationships work?

One of the biggest misconceptions I hear shared a lot in the gay community is that non-monogamous relationships don’t work.  Now I know that everyone has their own personal beliefs about what relationship structure (monogamous, non-monogamous, and everything in between) works for them.  What I’m going to encourage you to do today is to keep…

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Before you start couples counseling

Before you start couples counseling, try this first

Starting couples therapy is hard.  There.  I said it.  And I’m a relationship therapist.  So I can only imagine if you’re reading this that you’re struggling with the idea of starting counseling with your partner.  The research shows many couples suffer for five years together before they call up a couples counselor.  So what can…

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quarantine fatigue in your relationship

Tips for dealing with quarantine fatigue in your relationship

Our lives have changed dramatically since COVID-19 came onto the scene.  Sad to say it, but it doesn’t look like things will be changing anytime soon.  Everyone has been affected by the virus in one way or another.  However, there are ways to stay connected with your partner through this stressful period. This article hopes…

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How to stop being racist on gay dating apps

How to stop being racist on gay dating apps

If you want to reassure yourself that racism is alive and well in gay male culture, just open Grindr or Scruff.  You will see countless profiles that say simply put: “No (fill in the racial group)”.  No Asians.  No Blacks.  And the list goes on.  These are blatant, hurtful forms of racism and if you…

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