5 essential books for couples to read together

5 essential books for couples to read together

Reading a book with your partner can be a bonding and educational experience.  As a couples therapist, I’ve compiled a list of the 5 essential books for couples to ready together.  Reading is just one of the many things you can choose to do with your partner. Setting aside time The act of setting aside…

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monogamy and ethical non-monogamy in gay relationships

The pros and cons of monogamy and ethical non-monogamy in gay relationships

A beautiful thing about LGBTQ relationships is that we don’t have to blindly follow heteronormative coupling constructs.  We can create relationships that work for us. Along those lines, there is a spectrum from monogamy to ethical non-monogamy open for gay couples to explore. What do those terms mean?  Monogamy?  Non-monogamy? Monogamy When I talk about…

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Tough Questions for couples - couples counseling San Francisco

Tough questions for couples to ask each other

As a couples therapist, I have no shortage of tough questions for couples to ask each other.  In my experience, I have seen that there is also no shortage of excuses that allow us to avoid having tough conversations with our partners. There are usually good reasons we have for avoiding scary topics.  Life can…

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bullied for being gay, gay therapist San Francisco

I was bullied for being gay as a kid and it still affects me as an adult

I was bullied for being gay as a kid and it still affects me as an adult.  Sound familiar?  Many LGBTQ adults have similar stories about being bullied and tormented as a kid. What is bullying? According to a study in Psychological Medicine, “bullying involves repeated hurtful actions between peers where an imbalance of power…

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signs your relationship is toxic

What are the signs my relationship is toxic and unhealthy?

A toxic relationship can have severe negative effects on your physical and mental health.  If you’re in a relationship and struggling, that can be scary and overwhelming.  There is hope and you can make changes that will make a difference in your life. What is a toxic relationship? We’ve all heard people comment about relationship…

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