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shame about your sexual kinks

3 signs you may feel shame about your sexual kinks

In our society, it is easy to feel shame about your sexual kinks. Whether you identify as part of a sexual minority group or just prefer something other than the monogamous, missionary position, shame can wreck havoc on your sex life. In an ideal world, you would be totally comfortable talking about sex and exploring…

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sober space gay men sf

5 sober spaces for gay men in San Francisco

There are a number of sober spaces for gay men in San Francisco. It can be very helpful to locate sober spaces to build community, especially if you’re new to the process of remaining abstinent from drugs and alcohol. Safe spaces The gay community historically has used bars and cruising spots as a place to…

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stop self-criticism

1 important tool to stop self-criticism

People entering therapy often want to stop self-criticism. The research shows that people who have strong inner-critics often have less life satisfaction and increased levels of depression and anxiety. What do I mean by self-criticism? In order to stop self-criticism we need to become more familiar with the negative voices in our heads. These are…

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feeling jealous in an open relationship

Feeling jealous in an open relationship

Feeling jealous in an open relationship is perfectly natural.  It is perfectly natural to feel all sorts of things in any type of relationship. The trick is not to limit the range of emotions we feel, rather decide what we want to do with the emotions when they come up. Because they will come up. …

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gay men with low self-esteem

5 affirmations for gay men with low self-esteem

There have been a number of studies in recent years that show there are growing numbers of gay men with low self-esteem.   It’s still hard to be gay in many places in the world. While we face adversity from people outside our community, gay men are not always kind to each other. Gay men with…

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