It’s not your partner’s job to read your mind
You may not want to hear this, but it’s not your partner’s job to read your mind. If you expect mind reading in your relationship you will be disappointed time and time again. Picture this scenario, Rob and Steve have been together for years. By now, Rob feels that Steve should know when he’s crossed…
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A gay men’s guide to open relationships, from the perspective of a couples therapist
Often times couples or a member of a couple will come in to see me with curiosity about how to successfully open up their relationship. Changing the structure of your relationship is a big step. It can trigger all sorts of insecurities for some people and it can embolden others. This article aims to give…
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Are you nervous about couples counseling?
Feeling nervous about couples counseling is totally natural. Think about it, you’re inviting a stranger into the most intimate parts of your relationship. Then you’re trusting that stranger to help you make things better. You’re expected to be honest, open and forthcoming. You’re expected to change and do things differently. It’s kind of a big…
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Looking after your mental health as a gay man living with HIV
The HIV/AID epidemic wiped out an entire generation of gay, bisexual and transgender men and women in the 80s and 90s. Today, while becoming HIV+ can still be a traumatic event in a person’s life, it no longer has to be a death sentence. HIV treatment has improved and there are less drug side effects.…
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Is my partner a narcissist?
Even the most selfless among us can have traits of narcissism at times. Let’s face it, in the age of social media and reality TV, it’s hard not to have a bit of an inflated sense of self worth. And who doesn’t like a good selfie or Instagram story now and then? All joking aside,…
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