How does being gay affect your mental health?
Being gay affects our mental health in a variety of ways. Even if you had a Hallmark worthy coming out experience, were never bullied for your sexuality and have a supportive family, being gay is still hard. Statistics Queer teens are four times as likely to commit suicide as their non-queer counterparts. The rates…
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How to build intimacy in gay relationships
Intimacy doesn’t have to decrease over time. In fact, if you’re in a long-term gay relationship, a decrease in intimacy could be a symptom of a larger issue. While sex and intimacy are often used interchangeably, that’s not what I aim to do here. Let’s start by clarifying what I mean by intimacy. What is…
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Mindfulness tools for gay men
Mindfulness is a way of staying present, both in our bodies and with our emotions. For those of us in the LGBTQ community, it can be helpful to have mindfulness strategies to use when things get overwhelming. How can mindfulness be useful for gay men? As gay men, we often do everything we can…
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Understanding the monogamy spectrum in gay relationships and deciding what’s best for you
A beautiful thing about LGBTQ relationships is that we don’t have to blindly follow heteronormative coupling constructs. We can create relationships that work for us. Along those lines, there is a spectrum from monogamy to ethical non-monogamy open for gay couples to explore. What do those terms mean? Monogamy? Non-monogamy? The monogamy spectrum in gay…
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Making relationships goals as a gay couple
As a couples therapist, one of the first things I do is help a couple establish shared goals for our work together. This is important because it helps keep us on track and gives us talking points for exploring our work down the road. Developing shared relationship goals is not only important for counseling. It…
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