Keeping secrets in your relationship

Is it ok to keep secrets in your relationship?

According to relationship experts Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, the foundation of a strong relationship is trust.  Yet all too often we hold back and keep things from our partners. Keeping a secret, or withholding, is actually just another form of lying to your partner.  If you take nothing else from the article, know that…

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healing childhood trauma therapy EMDR San Francisco

I’m ready to heal my childhood trauma

I don’t want my bad childhood to define me anymore.  Yes, I did experience trauma. Yes, it was painful. But I’m ready to move forward with my life.   These are sentiments shared by many trauma survivors at a certain point in their healing journey.  Often times people will come into therapy discouraged or disappointed…

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what to expect from your first couples counseling session

What to expect your first couples counseling session

Most people don’t know what to expect from the first couples therapy session.  Starting couples counseling can be intimidating and knowing what to expect can help you and your partner manage expectations.  It will also help better prepare you for a successful experience. In order to explain what starting couples therapy is like, I will…

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things I wish I knew before starting therapy

Things I wish I knew before starting therapy

Starting therapy is hard, but it doesn’t have to be a mystery. There’s tons of research saying therapy works. Many people talk about their success with counseling. But how exactly does it help?  Here is a list of things I wish I knew before starting therapy. It will take time Making changes in your life…

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three pillars of a thriving relationship

3 pillars of a thriving relationship, according to Dr. Sue Johnson

Having a successful, thriving and intimate relationship with your partner doesn’t have to be a mystery.   3 pillars to a thriving relationship According to Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, there a three pillars that make up a thriving, fulfilling relationship.  Those pillars are Accessibility, Responsiveness and Engagement. What brings…

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