Is it bad I never fight with my partner?
Is it bad we never fight? Well, here’s my unsatisfying therapist answer, it depends. It depends on a couple of things. First and foremost, do you or your partner avoid conflict because it’s uncomfortable? If so, then that could be bad for your relationship in the long run. Being able to talk about conflict in…
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How to pick a good partner to build a life with
Picking a partner to build a life with is a big decision. In fact, many relationship problems can be avoided if we just learn to pick better partners for ourselves. In our culture, we don’t often talk about what makes a good partner. Most of us make this decision blinded by attraction and lust. So,…
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How to have a healing conversation after a fight with your partner
Every couple fights. Period. End of sentence. If you’re not disagreeing from time to time, your relationship is probably not as alive as it could be. But that’s a topic for another day. The trouble most couples get into is not the fight itself, it’s the repair. What is a repair? Picture this. You…
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How does social anxiety affect gay men?
Picture this. You’re about to go into a mixer for gays in technology. You’re feeling lightheaded. Your hands are clammy. Your pulse is racing faster and faster. Self-critical thoughts are running through your head at a rapid pace. Once you’ve psyched yourself up enough to enter the room you make a beeline for the bar…
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Here’s why a practice of self-compassion can change your life as a gay man
If you’re a gay man who would like to feel better about yourself, a practice of self-compassion can be transformative. There are so many of us in our community that suffer from poor self-esteem. We want to look different or feel different because we’ve learned on some level that who we are at our core…
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