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3 pillars of a thriving relationship, according to Dr. Sue Johnson

Having a successful, thriving and intimate relationship with your partner doesn’t have to be a mystery.   3 pillars to a thriving relationship According to Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, there a three pillars that make up a thriving, fulfilling relationship.  Those pillars are Accessibility, Responsiveness and Engagement. What brings…

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Healing from spiritual abuse as an LGBTQ+ person

Many of us in the LGBTQ+ community have conflicted relationships with religion and spirituality.    Sadly, religion is still far to often used against us. Scriptures are interpreted as saying our “lifestyle choices” are sinful.  Around the world people are still being killed and tortured because of their sexual or gender identity. Yet many of us…

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How to have a healing conversation after a fight with your partner

Every couple fights.  Period. End of sentence.  If you’re not disagreeing from time to time, your relationship is probably not as alive as it could be.  But that’s a topic for another day. The trouble most couples get into is not the fight itself, it’s the repair.   What is a repair? Picture this.  You…

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How does social anxiety affect gay men?

Picture this.  You’re about to go into a mixer for gays in technology.  You’re feeling lightheaded. Your hands are clammy.  Your pulse is racing faster and faster. Self-critical thoughts are running through your head at a rapid pace.  Once you’ve psyched yourself up enough to enter the room you make a beeline for the bar…

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