Couples Counseling
Couples counseling is a powerful way to better understand, heal and grow your relationship. Through relationship therapy you can have a more close and connected bond with your partner. As a couples therapist in San Francisco, I provide counseling for couples looking to have more connected, intimate and communicative relationships. Through this blog, I explore topics like communication problems, intimacy issues, connection, sexuality and conflict management.
How to build intimacy in gay relationships
Intimacy doesn’t have to decrease over time. In fact, if you’re in a long-term gay relationship, a decrease in intimacy could be a symptom of a larger issue. While sex and intimacy are often used interchangeably, that’s not what I aim to do here. Let’s start by clarifying what I mean by intimacy. What is…
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Understanding the monogamy spectrum in gay relationships and deciding what’s best for you
A beautiful thing about LGBTQ relationships is that we don’t have to blindly follow heteronormative coupling constructs. We can create relationships that work for us. Along those lines, there is a spectrum from monogamy to ethical non-monogamy open for gay couples to explore. What do those terms mean? Monogamy? Non-monogamy? The monogamy spectrum in gay…
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Making relationships goals as a gay couple
As a couples therapist, one of the first things I do is help a couple establish shared goals for our work together. This is important because it helps keep us on track and gives us talking points for exploring our work down the road. Developing shared relationship goals is not only important for counseling. It…
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How to address communication problems in your relationship
When people call to seek couples counseling, they often say that communication problems are their number one concern. Communication problems can mean a variety of different things and we’ll explore a few common types here. Typically, a communication breakdown is one of two things. You and your partner have stopped talking about important things all…
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Is it possible to rebuild trust after betrayal?
The short answer is, yes. It is possible to rebuild trust after betrayal. If you’re able to move through the pain there is the possibility that your relationship can be even stronger than it was in the past. It won’t be easy. It will take time, hard work and vulnerability, but there is hope. What…
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