Therapy for Gay Men

As a gay therapist in San Francisco, I provide tools, tips and resources for those interested in therapy for gay men.  Some of the topics covered in this blog include open relationships, substance use, friendships, LGBTQ concerns, coming out, and making other gay friends.

Being gay affect mental health

How does being gay affect your mental health?

Being gay affects our mental health in a variety of ways.  Even if you had a Hallmark worthy coming out experience, were never bullied for your sexuality and have a supportive family, being gay is still hard.   Statistics Queer teens are four times as likely to commit suicide as their non-queer counterparts.  The rates…

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build intimacy in gay relationships

How to build intimacy in gay relationships

Intimacy doesn’t have to decrease over time.  In fact, if you’re in a long-term gay relationship, a decrease in intimacy could be a symptom of a larger issue.  While sex and intimacy are often used interchangeably, that’s not what I aim to do here. Let’s start by clarifying what I mean by intimacy. What is…

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mindfulness tools for gay men

Mindfulness tools for gay men

Mindfulness is a way of staying present, both in our bodies and with our emotions.  For those of us in the LGBTQ community, it can be helpful to have mindfulness strategies to use when things get overwhelming.   How can mindfulness be useful for gay men? As gay men, we often do everything we can…

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How to be vulnerable as a gay man

How can I be more vulnerable as a gay man? (with some help from Brené Brown)

Being vulnerable is hard. As gay men, it can be especially challenging. Think about it, to be vulnerable you have to put your authentic self out there. As gay men, we’ve typically become experts at hiding parts of ourselves. Vulnerability Webster’s online dictionary states that when you’re vulnerable, you’re “capable of being physically or emotionally…

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