Therapy for Gay Men

As a gay therapist in San Francisco, I provide tools, tips and resources for those interested in therapy for gay men.  Some of the topics covered in this blog include open relationships, substance use, friendships, LGBTQ concerns, coming out, and making other gay friends.

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How can therapy be useful when you’re gay and sober?

Getting sober is a huge accomplishment. You’ve changed your relationship with drugs and alcohol and that will change your life in big and meaningful ways. However, the hard work doesn’t end once you’re sober. We often chose substance use as a way to self-medicate or cope with difficult life events. When changing your problematic substance…

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how to make gay friends in san francisco

How to make gay friends in San Francisco

Are you looking to make gay friends in San Francisco? Picture this. You’re feeling lonely so you decide to head out to a gay bar in the Castro by yourself. You walk in, get a drink and instantly it feels like the entire bar is silently judging you. Have you been there? I have. It…

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What to do if you’re a gay man with body image issues

If you’re a gay man with body image issues, you are not alone.  Do an image search for the term “gay men” and you will find mostly naked, muscular and white men.  Therefore, that is what society is telling gay men we need look like.  What happens when you fall outside that box? A negative…

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monogamy and ethical non-monogamy in gay relationships

The pros and cons of monogamy and ethical non-monogamy in gay relationships

A beautiful thing about LGBTQ relationships is that we don’t have to blindly follow heteronormative coupling constructs.  We can create relationships that work for us. Along those lines, there is a spectrum from monogamy to ethical non-monogamy open for gay couples to explore. What do those terms mean?  Monogamy?  Non-monogamy? Monogamy When I talk about…

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I was bullied for being gay as a kid and it still affects me as an adult

I was bullied for being gay as a kid and it still affects me as an adult.  Sound familiar?  Many LGBTQ adults have similar stories about being bullied and tormented as a kid. What is bullying? According to a study in Psychological Medicine, “bullying involves repeated hurtful actions between peers where an imbalance of power…

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