Therapy for Gay Men
As a gay therapist in San Francisco, I provide tools, tips and resources for those interested in therapy for gay men. Some of the topics covered in this blog include open relationships, substance use, friendships, LGBTQ concerns, coming out, and making other gay friends.
Healing from spiritual abuse as an LGBTQ+ person
Many of us in the LGBTQ+ community have conflicted relationships with religion and spirituality. Sadly, religion is still far to often used against us. Scriptures are interpreted as saying our “lifestyle choices” are sinful. Around the world people are still being killed and tortured because of their sexual or gender identity. Yet many of us…
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How does social anxiety affect gay men?
Picture this. You’re about to go into a mixer for gays in technology. You’re feeling lightheaded. Your hands are clammy. Your pulse is racing faster and faster. Self-critical thoughts are running through your head at a rapid pace. Once you’ve psyched yourself up enough to enter the room you make a beeline for the bar…
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Here’s why a practice of self-compassion can change your life as a gay man
If you’re a gay man who would like to feel better about yourself, a practice of self-compassion can be transformative. There are so many of us in our community that suffer from poor self-esteem. We want to look different or feel different because we’ve learned on some level that who we are at our core…
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I’m a gay man who has trouble getting or staying hard
It’s happens to all of us occasionally. You’re in the heat of the moment and your equipment doesn’t work the way you want it to. It can be embarrassing, upsetting or cringeworthy. Sometimes having trouble maintaining an erection during sex can be called performance anxiety or erectile dysfunction (ED). Whatever you call it, it can…
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As a gay man, how can I change my substance use?
If you’re a gay man wanting to change your relationship with substances, there are many different resources available for you in San Francisco. There are programs based on moderation and others based on abstinence. It can be useful to first clarify what your unique goal is for changing your substance use. What substances am I…
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