Therapy for Gay Men
As a gay therapist in San Francisco, I provide tools, tips and resources for those interested in therapy for gay men. Some of the topics covered in this blog include open relationships, substance use, friendships, LGBTQ concerns, coming out, and making other gay friends.
How does social anxiety affect gay men?
Picture this. You’re about to go into a mixer for gays in technology. You’re feeling lightheaded. Your hands are clammy. Your pulse is racing faster and faster. Self-critical thoughts are running through your head at a rapid pace. Once you’ve psyched yourself up enough to enter the room you make a beeline for the bar…
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Here’s why a practice of self-compassion can change your life as a gay man
If you’re a gay man who would like to feel better about yourself, a practice of self-compassion can be transformative. There are so many of us in our community that suffer from poor self-esteem. We want to look different or feel different because we’ve learned on some level that who we are at our core…
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I’m a gay man who has trouble getting or staying hard
It’s happens to all of us occasionally. You’re in the heat of the moment and your equipment doesn’t work the way you want it to. It can be embarrassing, upsetting or cringeworthy. Sometimes having trouble maintaining an erection during sex can be called performance anxiety or erectile dysfunction (ED). Whatever you call it, it can…
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As a gay man, how can I change my substance use?
If you’re a gay man wanting to change your relationship with substances, there are many different resources available for you in San Francisco. There are programs based on moderation and others based on abstinence. It can be useful to first clarify what your unique goal is for changing your substance use. What substances am I…
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How to improve your self-esteem as a gay man
Many people struggle with self-esteem issues, especially those of us in the LGBTQ community. That’s a generalization, of course, however there are mental health statistics that back up our struggle. As Andrew Tobias pointed out in his memoir The Best Little Boy in the World and Alan Downs explored in The Velvet Rage, being gay…
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