Therapy for Gay Men

As a gay therapist in San Francisco, I provide tools, tips and resources for those interested in therapy for gay men.  Some of the topics covered in this blog include open relationships, substance use, friendships, LGBTQ concerns, coming out, and making other gay friends.

How to stop being racist on gay dating apps

How to stop being racist on gay dating apps

If you want to reassure yourself that racism is alive and well in gay male culture, just open Grindr or Scruff.  You will see countless profiles that say simply put: “No (fill in the racial group)”.  No Asians.  No Blacks.  And the list goes on.  These are blatant, hurtful forms of racism and if you…

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looking after your mental health as an HIV+ gay man

Looking after your mental health as a gay man living with HIV

The HIV/AID epidemic wiped out an entire generation of gay, bisexual and transgender men and women in the 80s and 90s.  Today, while becoming HIV+ can still be a traumatic event in a person’s life, it no longer has to be a death sentence.  HIV treatment has improved and there are less drug side effects.…

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I'm worried my sex life is out of control

Is my sex life out of control?

Sex is an important, natural and perfectly healthy part of life.  During sex, powerful endorphins are released and that’s one of the reasons it feels so good.  However, just like most things that make us feel good, sex can cross the line and be used in an unhealthy way.   Sex is natural Sex can sometimes…

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healing from spiritual abuse as an LGBTQ+ person

Healing from spiritual abuse as an LGBTQ+ person

Many of us in the LGBTQ+ community have conflicted relationships with religion and spirituality.    Sadly, religion is still far to often used against us. Scriptures are interpreted as saying our “lifestyle choices” are sinful.  Around the world people are still being killed and tortured because of their sexual or gender identity. Yet many of us…

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