Clinical Training:
Relationship Therapy
for Allies

Are you a therapist or coach who wants would like to feel more confident when working with queer relationships clients?

Identity Surprise

Let me tell you the story of Samantha, a straight female therapist and ally I know. She assumed the couple she was seeing in her office identified as straight. Until it surfaced one day that the male member of the marriage identified as bisexual. Samantha had a lot of questions and wasn’t sure where to turn. How could she miss this? Did she do something wrong?

Knowledge Gap

Or there’s Rob, a straight male therapist and ally. He is working with a gay couple and the topic of CNM (Consensual non-monogamy) came up. One of the members of the couple accused the other of being a sex addict. Rob wasn't sure where to go next.

Queer Relationships

Queer relationships are different. They just are. And you don’t know what you don’t know. As a caring, ally therapist I know you don’t want the burden of education to fall on your clients.

Heteronormative Culture

We all grew up in a culture that is heteronormative. That means, you’re assumed straight and cisgendered until proven otherwise. In order to truly start seeing your queer clients differently, you need to do some reprogramming. This course will help you do that.

Why take this course?

As a gay man, I’ve had far too many clients come to see me after a bad experience with an ally therapist. Sometimes they’ve felt misunderstood, other times they’ve been hurt. It’s my mission to make sure that doesn’t keep happening. This course will provide a safe space to ask any questions that you may have.

What therapists and coaches are saying...

I’ve heard “I need help!” “I’m lost!” and “Am I doing this right?” from coaches and therapists often. Fortunately it’s preventable with some small tweaks to what you already know. That’s why I created Queer Relationship Therapy for Allies.

This course is designed to help you deepen your work with LGBTQ+ clients and relationships. It was created to help you quickly assess for yourself what you don’t know and then give you the tools you need in order to grow. You’ll feel more confident calling yourself an ally. You’ll be able to more authentically help your clients and know when you need to refer out.

6 Sessions (1 hour each)

CEU Information

Course Completion certificates will be awarded at the end of the course in exchange for a completed evaluation form.

Course meets the qualifications for 6 hours of continuing education credit for LMFT's, LCSW's, LPCC's and LEP's as required by the California Board of Behavioral Sciences. **

How does the course work?

This course is designed to participate in live online, so I encourage you to ask questions and bring your clinical concerns. If you can’t  participate live, you will get a replay.  Each session includes case examples and plenty of time for questions and discussion.

Session 1: The Foundations

The terms and culture of the queer community are constantly evolving. This first session will give you a strong foundation in terminology and culture. There will be a personal assessment that will help you identify your areas for growth during this course.

Session 2: Queer Culture and Theory in the Therapy Room

If you're going to work with queer clients, it's important that you have a basic understanding of queer history and theory. This will help you spot systemic issues and better advocate for your clients.

Session 3: Getting a Strong Start with Queer Clients

A strong start in relationship counseling can make all the difference in terms of treatment outcomes. Learn a truly LGBTQ+ Affirmative Assessment to help you begin on the right foot with your queer clients.

Session 4: Navigating Different Relationship Structures

Queer relationships often look different than our straight counterparts.  Some choose monogamy, some choose polyamory and there's everything in between. Learn how to work with different relationship structures more effectively in your practice.

Session 5: Queer Sex

If you're not part of the LGBTQ+ community you might be unsure how to talk about queer sex. That's not helping anyone. Learn how to handle the topic of sex in the treatment room.

Session 6: Addiction and Out of Control Sexual Behavior(OCSB)

Research shows that the statistics for LGBTQ+ clients and problematic substance use and OCSB are higher than our straight counterparts. Learn some of the basics for how to work with these issues in the therapy space.


$299, which includes 6 CE Hours

Since this is the pilot run, I’m limiting it to 15 participants. It also means that right now is the lowest price this course will ever be offered. When I reopen it, the price will likely jump several hundred dollars.

Frequently Asked Questions

Who is this course for?

This course is for coaches and therapists who want to better support queer relationships, whether you have them in your practice already or hope to see them in the future. This is for you if you want to illuminate your blindspots working with the queer community and do justice to your current and future LGBTQIA+ clients.

When is this training happening?

The course meets live on Mondays at 1pm PT/2pm MT/4pm ET for 6 weeks.

January 8, 15, 22, February 19, 26, March 4.

What’s the format of the course?

Each session is a combination of lecture, case presentation, and live Q&A. We will have plenty of time for you to ask questions and get feedback about your case. You will also have a replay of each session to keep for life.

Is there a refund?

Refunds will be offered up to the start of the course. Once the course starts there will not be any refunds offered.

Is there a guarantee?

I guarantee that if you have a desire to help LGBTQ+ relationships and you apply what you learn, your couples will benefit from the knowledge gained in this course. You'll be more aware of your own blindspots and you can feel more confident showing up as the ally you always wanted to be.

Other questions?

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    CEU Information

    6 CEU credits will be offered in Colorado and California.

    **If you do not attend the training live you will need to complete an assessment for each segment that you miss in order to receive CEU credits.

    Tom Bruett, LMFT (provider #115291) is approved by the California Association of Marriage and Family Therapists to sponsor continuing education for LMFT, LCSW, LPCC and LEP. Tom Bruett maintains responsibility for this program/course and its content.


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    Course completion certificates will be awarded at the end of the course in exchange for a completed evaluation form.

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