Relationship Therapy

Relationship therapy is right for you if...

You find yourself fighting more frequently and not feeling seen or understood.
There's a distance growing between you and your partner and you're not sure how to bridge the gap.
Your sex life has fallen off a cliff and that's not working for you.

Chances are if you're reading this, you're in a lot of pain right now.

I've helped hundreds of couples over the past decade create more meaningful, connected and authentic relationships. I see myself as part therapist, coach and teacher. I've trained extensively in the art of helping people improve their relationships with couples therapy pioneers Dr. Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson.

I provide affirmative relationship counseling online for those living in the states of the California or Colorado. And in person at my office in the Highlands northwest area of Denver, Colorado.

Communication Problems

Are you having trouble communicating?

Do you feel lonely and isolated in your relationship?

Are you tired of getting stuck in the same negative tailspin?

I help couples navigate through those roadblocks that get in the way of intimacy and connection. Chances are if you are willing to make some changes in the way you interact with your partner, you can drastically improve the way that you connect with your partner.

Trust and closeness often disappear when the communication breaks down in your relationship.

Let's talk about sex

Has your sex life become non-existent? Is it hard to talk openly about what you really desire? Are there differences in your sexual wants or needs?

Over time, sex can ebb and flow in any relationship. However, it is important to be able to talk about and ask for what you need and want.

What will the sessions be like?

You may be nervous about beginning a process like relationship counseling. It can be scary for some people to share your intimate thoughts and feelings about your partner.

I offer an opportunity to do things in a new way.

I will help you create a different conversation through direct feedback and focused therapy. In relationship counseling, you'll break the stuck patterns you have with one another. When you can learn how to see and hear one another, repair is possible, and closeness can return.

If you'd like to hear more about what to expect from couples therapy with me, please check out this blog post and video about the topic.

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Safety

My specialty is working with gay male couples. However, I do enjoy working with all types of relationships, especially with other LGBTQ+ folks and those in open or polyamorous relationships. The best way to find out whether we're a fit is to reach out and schedule a free consultation. I'll be honest with you about whether I feel I can help or not and happy to give other referrals if we're not a fit.

Whatever your relationship structure, my aim is to make you feel welcome and understood, though, at times, I will challenge you.

I know it can be intimidating to start the process of couples therapy, however often times people will find relief soon and begin the journey to a happier more satisfying relationship.

I’m ready for relationship counseling but I still have some questions and concerns…

I’m not sure my partner will come to therapy.

It’s true that you can’t make your partner come in for therapy if they’re not willing. If this is a concern for you, set up a consultation with me and we can strategize what the best plan of action may be. Perhaps if you lay out why this step is important for your relationship your partner will listen.

What if counseling makes things worse?

It is a common concern that bringing things up in couples counseling may make things worse. You are certainly not alone in that fear. However, by speaking the truth and learning new tools you can have tough conversations and heal the past.

What if it doesn’t work?

Yes, it’s scary to think about what if couples therapy doesn’t make things better. It’s a big commitment and investment of time and energy. For a thought experiment, think for a moment about what it will be like if couples counseling DOES work. Imagine how much stronger your relationship can become. Imagine if you stop having that same fight and you can be close and connected.