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How to Deal with the Loss of a Parent (or Two)

October 10, 2023

Losing a parent is a special kind of grief. It’s often existential and hard to move through. Grief can be complicated if you have a strained relationship with your deceased parent. It can be devastating if it’s a tragic passing. As the formidable Lady Bracknell says in Oscar Wilde’s The Importance of Being Earnest:  “To…

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What is a couples therapy intensive?

April 25, 2023

Couples therapy retreats or intensives are a way to condense and accelerate the process of relationship counseling. Over the course of two full days of working together, we can make the kind of progress that usually takes months of weekly 50-minute sessions. What is a couples intensive?  A couples therapy retreat or intensive is a…

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From Conflict to Connection: How Ouch and Oops Can Transform Your Relationship

April 17, 2023

Couples often get stuck in a predictable conflict cycle. You know the drill. You’re partner says something and you can’t help but respond negatively. Then you’re off to the races. Today I want to teach you about how you can use a simple exercise to help you stop negative conflict patterns in your relationship Understanding…

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Why do you need radical transparency in your relationship?

April 4, 2023

Are you ready to do some spring cleaning in your relationship? After a wet and cold winter for many, signs of spring are popping up all around us. Anyone that knows me knows that I love a good excuse to clean up and reorganize. So why not use this moment to do some spring cleaning…

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Does internalized homophobia impact your relationship?

March 28, 2023

You have a favorite porn channel.  You know the clip, you’ve watched it many, many times.  But have you ever shared that clip with your partner?  As a therapist who works with LGBTQ+ relationships, I have seen firsthand how internalized homophobia can impact relationships.  And yes, hiding our desires from our partners is just one…

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Instant way to stop a fight- hacking your brain to get better at conflict

March 14, 2023

Ever wonder if you could hack your brain so that you and your partner can become better at conflict?  Ever wonder if you could instantly stop a fight? Good news!  You can.  Things are getting out of hand If you’ve been there, you know.  Our imaginary couple Ralph and Andy have been here before.  Ralph…

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How to Overcome Power Struggles in Gay Relationships

March 7, 2023

Power struggles in gay relationships are a common issue. They can show up as arguments, disagreements, or a constant push and pull for control and influence. Power struggles can leave you feeling frustration, anger, and resentment. However, it is possible to overcome these tricky encounters and build a stronger, more fulfilling partnership.  What is a…

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How to Keep Relationships Strong When Hardship Happens: Navigating Tragedy and Adversity together

February 28, 2023

Life is full of unexpected events and hardships that can challenge even the strongest of relationships. Whether it’s the death of a parent, the death of a child, job loss, or a medical problem, these events can put tremendous strain on any relationship. However, it is possible to weather these challenges and keep your relationship…

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Stop Avoiding Conflict in Your Relationship Today as a Gay Couple: One easy thing you can try today to make you less conflict averse

February 13, 2023

Conflict avoidance in relationships is a common problem that many gay couples face. When conflicts arise, some people tend to avoid them or sweep them under the rug, hoping they will simply go away on their own. Usually, this only leads to bigger problems down the line, as the underlying issues remain unaddressed and fester.…

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My partner gets angry when I talk about my feelings

August 18, 2021

Many couples will come into therapy and one member of the relationship will claim that their partner gets angry when they talk about their feelings.  My partner gets angry when I talk about my feelings As a couples therapist, my job is to help people learn how to talk more effectively about their feelings.  Feelings…

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