Losing a parent is a special kind of grief. It’s often existential and hard to move through. Grief can be complicated if you have a strained relationship with your deceased parent. It can be devastating if it’s a tragic passing. As the formidable Lady Bracknell says in Oscar Wilde’s The Importance of Being Earnest: “To…Read More
Couples therapy retreats or intensives are a way to condense and accelerate the process of relationship counseling. Over the course of two full days of working together, we can make the kind of progress that usually takes months of weekly 50-minute sessions. What is a couples intensive? A couples therapy retreat or intensive is a…Read More
Couples often get stuck in a predictable conflict cycle. You know the drill. You’re partner says something and you can’t help but respond negatively. Then you’re off to the races. Today I want to teach you about how you can use a simple exercise to help you stop negative conflict patterns in your relationship Understanding…Read More
Are you ready to do some spring cleaning in your relationship? After a wet and cold winter for many, signs of spring are popping up all around us. Anyone that knows me knows that I love a good excuse to clean up and reorganize. So why not use this moment to do some spring cleaning…Read More
You have a favorite porn channel. You know the clip, you’ve watched it many, many times. But have you ever shared that clip with your partner? As a therapist who works with LGBTQ+ relationships, I have seen firsthand how internalized homophobia can impact relationships. And yes, hiding our desires from our partners is just one…Read More
Ever wonder if you could hack your brain so that you and your partner can become better at conflict? Ever wonder if you could instantly stop a fight? Good news! You can. Things are getting out of hand If you’ve been there, you know. Our imaginary couple Ralph and Andy have been here before. Ralph…Read More
Power struggles in gay relationships are a common issue. They can show up as arguments, disagreements, or a constant push and pull for control and influence. Power struggles can leave you feeling frustration, anger, and resentment. However, it is possible to overcome these tricky encounters and build a stronger, more fulfilling partnership. What is a…Read More
Life is full of unexpected events and hardships that can challenge even the strongest of relationships. Whether it’s the death of a parent, the death of a child, job loss, or a medical problem, these events can put tremendous strain on any relationship. However, it is possible to weather these challenges and keep your relationship…Read More
Conflict avoidance in relationships is a common problem that many gay couples face. When conflicts arise, some people tend to avoid them or sweep them under the rug, hoping they will simply go away on their own. Usually, this only leads to bigger problems down the line, as the underlying issues remain unaddressed and fester.…Read More
Many couples will come into therapy and one member of the relationship will claim that their partner gets angry when they talk about their feelings. My partner gets angry when I talk about my feelings As a couples therapist, my job is to help people learn how to talk more effectively about their feelings. Feelings…Read More
Hi, I'm Tom Bruett
I'm a psychotherapist who provides online individual and couples therapy in Colorado and California.
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