There are lots of gay couples with age differences. Nothing wrong with that! Whether it’s a May-December relationship or a relationship with a bigger age gap, there are some unique challenges that can arise with the differences in age. At the end of the day, age is just a number but it’s also something that…
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Ever wonder if you could hack your brain so that you and your partner can become better at conflict? Ever wonder if you could instantly stop a fight? Good news! You can. Things are getting out of hand If you’ve been there, you know. Our imaginary couple Ralph and Andy have been here before. Ralph…
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Power struggles in gay relationships are a common issue. They can show up as arguments, disagreements, or a constant push and pull for control and influence. Power struggles can leave you feeling frustration, anger, and resentment. However, it is possible to overcome these tricky encounters and build a stronger, more fulfilling partnership. What is a…
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Life is full of unexpected events and hardships that can challenge even the strongest of relationships. Whether it’s the death of a parent, the death of a child, job loss, or a medical problem, these events can put tremendous strain on any relationship. However, it is possible to weather these challenges and keep your relationship…
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Conflict avoidance in relationships is a common problem that many gay couples face. When conflicts arise, some people tend to avoid them or sweep them under the rug, hoping they will simply go away on their own. Usually, this only leads to bigger problems down the line, as the underlying issues remain unaddressed and fester.…
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Couples therapy intensives are a way to condense and accelerate the process of relationship counseling. Over the course of two full days of working together, we can make the kind of progress that usually takes months of weekly 50 minute sessions. What is a couples intensive? A couples therapy intensive is a condensed and accelerated…
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In this post I’ve compiled a list of the most common mental health issues that bring gay men into therapy. There are a ton of unique concerns that we face in the LGBTQ+ community. Of course those have an impact on our mental health. While we can experience anxiety, depression and relationship concerns just like…
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Many couples will come into therapy and one member of the relationship will claim that their partner gets angry when they talk about their feelings. My partner gets angry when I talk about my feelings As a couples therapist, my job is to help people learn how to talk more effectively about their feelings. Feelings…
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Learning how to rekindle a relationship is one of the main reasons couples seek therapy. Rediscovering intimacy is a big part of the process. Intimacy doesn’t have to decrease over time. In fact, if you’re in a long-term relationship or marriage, a decrease in intimacy could be a symptom of a larger issue. Sure, you…
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You can rebuild trust after infidelity. There is hope. In fact, your relationship can even grow stronger because of the cheating. However, it will be a tough and painful road. Not going to lie. Keep reading this article if you’re interested in learning how to move from the affair discovery through to repair and healing. …
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Hi, I'm Tom Bruett
I'm a psychotherapist who provides online individual and couples therapy in Colorado and California.