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How To Rekindle a Relationship

June 9, 2021

Learning how to rekindle a relationship is one of the main reasons couples seek therapy. Rediscovering intimacy is a big part of the process. Intimacy doesn’t have to decrease over time.  In fact, if you’re in a long-term relationship or marriage, a decrease in intimacy could be a symptom of a larger issue.  Sure, you…

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How to rebuild trust after infidelity

June 2, 2021

You can rebuild trust after infidelity.  There is hope.  In fact, your relationship can even grow stronger because of the cheating. However, it will be a tough and painful road.  Not going to lie. Keep reading this article if you’re interested in learning how to move from the affair discovery through to repair and healing. …

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How to have an open gay relationship

January 5, 2021

Is it possible to have a successful open gay relationship? Absolutely! But it will take deliberate work, intentional conversations, trust and time. Now I know that everyone has their own personal beliefs about what relationship structure (monogamous, non-monogamous, open relationship and everything in between) works for them.  In this post I will define some terms,…

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I’m a gay man who has trouble getting hard

December 4, 2020

It’s happened occasionally to all of us.  You’re in the heat of the moment and your equipment doesn’t work the way you want it to.  However, if you consistently have trouble maintaining an erection, there may be other things at play.    Biology Sometimes doctors will refer to erectile dysfunction as the canary in the coal…

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Before you start couples counseling, try this first

September 2, 2020

Starting couples therapy is hard.  There.  I said it.  And I’m a relationship therapist.  So I can only imagine if you’re reading this that you’re struggling with the idea of starting counseling with your partner.  The research shows many couples suffer for five years together before they call up a couples counselor.  So what can…

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5 relationship tips from a couples therapist

5 important relationship tips from a couples therapist

January 30, 2020

As a couples therapist, I’ve worked with all types of relationships.  Whether gay, straight, polyamorous, monogamous, or somewhere in between here are five tips that can help you start improving your relationship today.  Hopefully reading these tips can help you start having conversations that will lead to improved communication, intimacy and connection. Tip #1- Pick A…

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What to expect your first couples counseling session

June 7, 2019

Most people don’t know what to expect from the first couples therapy session.  In this post we’ll explore 15 top reasons couples come into therapy.  We’ll also look at what the process of starting couples counseling looks like on a practical and emotional level.  All with the intention of helping you better prepare yourself for…

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How to have a healing conversation after a fight with your partner

April 15, 2019

Every couple fights.  Period. End of sentence.  If you’re not disagreeing from time to time, your relationship is probably not as alive as it could be.  But that’s a topic for another day. The trouble most couples get into is not the fight itself, it’s the repair.   What is a repair? Picture this.  You…

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How to address communication problems in your relationship

November 19, 2018

When people call to seek couples counseling, they often say that communication problems are their number one concern. Communication problems can mean a variety of different things and we’ll explore a few common types here. Typically, a communication breakdown is one of two things. You and your partner have stopped talking about important things all…

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The most common mental health issues that bring gay men into therapy

April 5, 2018

Today I’m going to explore 8 common topics gay men can talk about in therapy to improve their lives and relationships. This is by no means an exhaustive list. Just like our straight counterparts, we can experience grief, addiction, life transitions, anxiety, and depression. That’s not what I’m going to talk about today. The Statistics…

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    I'm a psychotherapist who provides online individual and couples therapy in Colorado and California.

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