You can rebuild trust after infidelity. There is hope. In fact, your relationship can even grow stronger because of the cheating. However, it will be a tough and painful road. Not going to lie. Keep reading this article if you’re interested in learning how to move from the affair discovery through to repair and healing. …Read More
Is it possible to have a successful open gay relationship? Absolutely! But it will take deliberate work, intentional conversations, trust and time. Now I know that everyone has their own personal beliefs about what relationship structure (monogamous, non-monogamous, open relationship and everything in between) works for them. In this post I will define some terms,…Read More
It’s happened occasionally to all of us. You’re in the heat of the moment and your equipment doesn’t work the way you want it to. However, if you consistently have trouble maintaining an erection, there may be other things at play. Biology Sometimes doctors will refer to erectile dysfunction as the canary in the coal…Read More
Starting couples therapy is hard. There. I said it. And I’m a relationship therapist. So I can only imagine if you’re reading this that you’re struggling with the idea of starting counseling with your partner. The research shows many couples suffer for five years together before they call up a couples counselor. So what can…Read More
As a couples therapist, I’ve worked with all types of relationships. Whether gay, straight, polyamorous, monogamous, or somewhere in between here are five tips that can help you start improving your relationship today. Hopefully reading these tips can help you start having conversations that will lead to improved communication, intimacy and connection. Tip #1- Pick A…Read More
Most people don’t know what to expect from the first couples therapy session. In this post we’ll explore 15 top reasons couples come into therapy. We’ll also look at what the process of starting couples counseling looks like on a practical and emotional level. All with the intention of helping you better prepare yourself for…Read More
Every couple fights. Period. End of sentence. If you’re not disagreeing from time to time, your relationship is probably not as alive as it could be. But that’s a topic for another day. The trouble most couples get into is not the fight itself, it’s the repair. What is a repair? Picture this. You…Read More
Today I’m going to explore 8 common topics gay men can talk about in therapy to improve their lives and relationships. This is by no means an exhaustive list. Just like our straight counterparts, we can experience grief, addiction, life transitions, anxiety, and depression. That’s not what I’m going to talk about today. The Statistics…Read More
Hi, I'm Tom Bruett
I'm a psychotherapist who provides online individual and couples therapy in Colorado and California.
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