Posts Tagged ‘couples counseling’

Keeping secrets in your relationship

Is it ok to keep secrets in your relationship?

According to relationship experts Ellyn Bader and Peter Pearson, the foundation of a strong relationship is trust.  Yet all too often we hold back and keep things from our partners. Keeping a secret, or withholding, is actually just another form of lying to your partner.  If you take nothing else from the article, know that…

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what to expect from your first couples counseling session

What to expect your first couples counseling session

Most people don’t know what to expect from the first couples therapy session.  Starting couples counseling can be intimidating and knowing what to expect can help you and your partner manage expectations.  It will also help better prepare you for a successful experience. In order to explain what starting couples therapy is like, I will…

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three pillars of a thriving relationship

3 pillars of a thriving relationship, according to Dr. Sue Johnson

Having a successful, thriving and intimate relationship with your partner doesn’t have to be a mystery.   3 pillars to a thriving relationship According to Dr. Sue Johnson, the founder of Emotionally Focused Couples Therapy, there a three pillars that make up a thriving, fulfilling relationship.  Those pillars are Accessibility, Responsiveness and Engagement. What brings…

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How do I know if it’s time to leave my relationship?

As a couples therapist, I spend my days encouraging people to work on their relationships.  With support and hard work, it’s remarkable how much progress some couples can make. You can heal betrayal, improve communication and become better connected.   However, sometimes it’s not possible or healthy to remain in a relationship.  Sometimes it’s in…

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Is it bad I never fight with my partner couples therapy san francisco 94102

Is it bad I never fight with my partner?

Is it bad we never fight?  Well, here’s my unsatisfying therapist answer, it depends. It depends on a couple of things.  First and foremost, do you or your partner avoid conflict because it’s uncomfortable? If so, then that could be bad for your relationship in the long run. Being able to talk about conflict in…

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