Therapy for Gay Men in California and Colorado

Being gay is awesome.  It's also probably not the only thing about you that's important.

Why work with a gay therapist?

You want your therapist to get you.  You don't want to have to describe the difference between Grindr and Sniffies.

It's hard enough dealing with anxiety or relationship stress without the added fear of being misunderstood.

Granted, just because we share a sexual orientation doesn't mean I'll understand everything about you.  However, hopefully you'll feel comfortable being yourself and bringing up tough topics.

If we work together, you can experience someone who is curious to know more about you and what your experience has been like.  Because of the benefits of online therapy, we can work together if you live anywhere in the state of California or Colorado.

Being open and authentic

Often people will come in and say that they weren't fully open with previous therapists.  The didn't feel like they could share about their substance use, sex life or something else related to their sexuality.

Let's change that.

A different kind of "coming out"

Coming out is a rite of passage that all LGBTQ+ people go through.  And we keep going through it our entire lives every time we start a new job or meet a new set of people.  Some people have easy experiences and for others it can be a real challenge.  There's a second coming out that counseling and therapy can help with.

In learning to hide our sexuality, we also learn to hide other important parts of ourselves.  Some of us become people pleasers.  Others become super focused on work and career.

In "coming out" a second time you can figure out more clearly what changes you want to make in your life to be more authentic and satisfied.

Whether you live in West Hollywood, the Castro, Sacramento, Fresno or anywhere else in the state of California, we can now work together over secure video right from the comfort of your own home.  I'm also licensed in Colorado and can provide virtual therapy for those in Denver, Colorado Springs, Boulder and beyond.

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Schedule a free 15 minute phone consultation to learn more about counseling.

I'm more than just my sexuality

Of course you are.  However, there are some issues and concerns that are unique to our community and LGBT counseling in San Francisco can help.

Issues that come up for gay men in therapy

I want to start therapy but I still have some questions and concerns…

I’m worried I won’t have enough to talk about. 

Don’t worry, I have plenty of questions to ask and it’s also ok if there are some moments of silence.  As you get more comfortable with the process and with me, words will come more easily.  You don’t have to be “good” at therapy and we will check in on the progress as we go.

I'm worried therapy will take a long time.  Is that true? 

The process of therapy is different for everyone.  I know, that's such a "therapist" response.  You don't have to be in therapy forever, but it will most likely be a big investment of time and hard work.

It’s hard to talk about my past. 

I get it.  There’s some stuff that we’d all like to forget.  If it’s important to talk about the past, we’ll get there.  While talking about trauma can be painful, it can also be freeing.  There are tools and techniques I have studied that can help with that process, like EMDR and mindfulness.

I see that you're only doing virtual therapy.  Does it work as well as in person therapy?

Trying virtual therapy is a personal choice.  I love the flexibility of meeting over video and have been pleasantly surprised at the success of working virtually.  If you're nervous about it, let's set up a free virtual consult and you can judge for yourself.

I’m ready to take the next step and start therapy.

Together we can make a plan so that you can achieve your goals and live the more authentic, meaningful life you desire.

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